So, i was reading stuff off forums and a few questions on relationships were throw about.
one of which being, 'What does it mean when a guy or girl kisses the opposite sex on their forehead?'


The search online begun.

yahoo answers, Girls ask Guys


"A kiss on the forehead is a sweet, innocent way of saying he cares about you and you matter to him. There is a gallant, protective meaning behind a forehead kiss - but that doesn't necessarily mean it is romantic. However, if it was "at a party" it is likely he has romantic intentions, and is working his courage up slowly. A forehead kiss is a good way to show someone you care without coming on too strong - it is caring and respectful."

"It means they care for you. Not necessarily as a girlfriend. You kiss your 12 year old niece on the forhead. Not your girlfriend."


Guy: "A forehead kiss is a high form of adoration. It means that the guy doesn't only like/love you but also adores you, feels responsible for you in a way that is beyond mere sexual or mental desire. It is selfless. I hope this guy is genuine and isn't abusing this symbol of extreme affection."

Guy: "It means we really APPRECIATE you aside from sex...it's a real compliment. I hope it happens to you many times!"


Guy: "As the others said, I won't kiss any girl on the forehead unless I truly care for her and want to look out for her.

Kissing a girl on the forehead is akin to the love and support one would get from a parent. If you think about it, I think it even has its origins in this as many parents would kiss their (small) kids good night or when they are heading out on the forehead."

Guy: "A kiss on the lips before he leaves is something that is almost second nature now to any couple. A kiss on the forehead means that there's something more in that relationship. He wants to be there for you even if you guys are just friends. Its unfortunate that you guys broke up, but this guy seems like he truly cares about you. I'm guessing he doesn't do this to all of his other female friends, so you'll probably still mean that much more to him than everyone else."


aw shucks.

Fast Forward - Jesse

Its been about 3 days since my last entry, my thoughts are EVERY WHERE!
I hate this. i really hate everything that has gone out of spin, out of the happy ending plot i wanted to have for everyone around me...especially with Eleanor.

Then again, even though so many things have happened and its really a struggle but i guess after the talk earlier this evening my forever bestie has our ultimate support and forgiveness.
By 'our', i mean Trey, Cameron and myself.

Earlier we met at our usual place, Cameron didn't want to come but Trey asked him if he still loved Ellie and can't imagine his life without her, if he couldn't - he should come along.
And he did.

I met Eleanor before that to get the answers i wanted about whether she was really two-timing her EX and Cameron, if she really loved him..Normally, she's always flashing her voluptuous figure and wearing those thick eye-liner but when i saw her today, she was totally bare-faced!
Eleanor without her eye-liner?! hahaha.
Okay back to the topic..

That was about 2 weeks ago, Eleanor met her ex in one of those 'PMS-y' moments after a quarrel with Cameron. He didn't want to pick her up in his new car and she got really pissed.
Coincidentally, her ex sms her all of a sudden and she agreed to join him at the bar.
Yada yada, a few drinks later she got tipsy and being emotional she slept with him.
no protection watsoever..
Dangerous, lady.

She told me she really wanted to just forget about it but when she knew that jerk had HIV, she got really scared and that's when things became so.
I told her i'll talk to cameron and hope he forgives her.

So, we all met at the coffee bean at orchard and the both of them had this awkward silence. horrible! Trey broke the ice by talking about how 'FRESH' faced Eleanor was. As usual, he's the monkey and trying to be nice to her and cameron.
Cameron then said she always looked beautiful - awwwww. and that's finally a smile on her face.
SOOooo me and trey pretended to go order our drinks and let them chat a bit.
we were gone like half an hour and Eleanor smsed 'we know u two love birds are hiding. come back. n..we agreed to patch. for better for worse'

Yipee!

Of course we didn't forget that her ex has HIV. Cameron said he'll go with Eleanor on the 2nd check over at the DSC clinic. That he'll also get himself tested. And if the worse happens, they'll decide. But for now, they're abstaining from sex (Eleanor told me.) but then of course, they can still share drinks and he can still eat all the veggies from her plate. they can still hug while watching movies cos its all right, so as long as there's no blood or body fluids contact, or so i've read...

"HIV can't be caught by kissing, hugging or shaking hands with an infected person, and it can't be transmitted by sneezes, door handles or dirty glasses. "


Later on Trey and i went to his studio and he played one of the soundtrack of his life - 'Have you ever really loved a woman' by Bryan Adams for me! ME!
Saying this song was everything he wanted to tell me and ...my smile was so wide and my heart just couldn't stop beating loudly. I am so touched!

He's like the best boyfriend ever. He respects me and even though he's cheeky he just loves me and said being the girl i am, he appreciates me more. what more can i say but awww..

Trey just texted me to 'stay positive, sweetie..'

I guess i will stay positive..


Eleanor is my best friend and if she's sick, i will be there for her.


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Read this article by Ms Shenton, on mypaper / 我报. 'whom graces articles on mypaper with various topics of life and mainly from a lady's point of view.

This time she writes about 'Why Marry? 为什么要结婚？' as to why women have this mentality that they have to marry before 30? Making it their sole mission in life. Yes, Marriage is a blessing, a bonding of 2 persons whom feel so right about each other and want to make that commitment. But towards getting that goal, have they forgotten what marriage was suppose to be about? In that quest of Marriage, which is like fulfilling a fairytale that has been told too many times again with '..and they lived happily ever after'.

In a way, the article strikes me (being a person whom knows she's hitting thirty & most of her classmates have kids-not 1 but 2..) and it also explains to men, why their other halves have this notion and to women, what do you wish to gain by getting married?

Personally, i do see the clock ticking. but i've gotten over that. I realised there are more important things than rushing through life, making bigger mistakes and having a Divorcee tag (sorry, no ill meaning) on me. Though yes, it enables me to focus on work without worrying about relationships and it's wonderful having someone to hug & kiss my troubles away when i've had a bad day, anyday, always; Still, its no reason to rush through it. it takes years to know a person, forever to understand one.

When Ms Shenton mentioned of a woman whom manages friends, life, work, fun and family independently, i agreed with her. Pay my own rent, settle my bills, know what i want and don't need, pays for her own purchases, don't need to rely on anyone. But then again, most men want a demure, quiet, easy going little thing. haha.


click to view article (bigger):


Or read the whole paper for 16th Feb 09.
-->Singapore's Mandarin paper, Mypaper, 16th Feb 09. / 我报-新加坡 小版华文报

So, lady, what's YOUR reason for wanting to get married?

slept about 10pm.
woke about 12.30am.
decided to scurry the net.

i agreed with this article on askmen.com 'Signs She’s Going To Dump You'. but i think there are more signs too. also, she could just pick a fight with you over the tiniest thing so she can get out.
i do wonder if men do bother to read stuff about women online.
haha.

another, Top 10: Signs It's Time To Break Up - i laughed at this. i nodded every question from 10-2.


8 Ways Men Try to Maintain the Upper Hand
-the above is hilarious. but its true, i dont like wussies. i don't like a man whom can't control his emotions and himself. rather, i allow myself to be the wussy. i think that's fine. but not my partner, no.
regarding the 'game' (not returning calls/text messages), its sometimes plain laziness and 'sorry, dont wish to entertain you now'. moreover, i'm not a multi-tasker and i can't concentrate on 'work' mentality when emotions get control. thus i tend not to get overworked on emotional stuff on weekdays. even so, when i really get 'wussy', i do yoga and that does divert the attention. talking about that..i haven't been exercising for like..M..T..W..3-4days. i feel the flab surrounding again.

this section, 'Guy Wisdom' on menshealth.com is hilarious.
they have e.g. 7 Reasons to End a Friendship, 26 Signs You're Finally a Grown-Up, 10 Rules to Look Good in a Suit..
sounds crazy.

this one over at iVillage is even better. i have to agree with the POV from a guy. Guy Decoder - based on what he says, does, reacts.
i do of course agreed with 'he says he loves me but he's not 'in love' with me' where the answer was, he's plainly saying, you're not the one.
which brings me to the book 'He's just not into you' and the upcoming movie based on that. lovely!

aww. this article shows the 10 Traits That Make You a Great Girlfriend, from a guy's POV what makes a 'keeper'.
that's not nice. thats too much pressure!

found a women's site. seems interesting. RedBook - fonts are a little large. not very interesting content at a glance.


iVillage's Is He in Love with You or in Lust with You? ah, this is interesting. very direct. agree.

M-F - work.
M-F - evenings i check my mails on Windows Live (Live, i like how its integrated to my messenger and is almost similar to Outlook.
Windows Live Messenger - when downloading, you get a few options and personally, i love how i could easily customize my messenger panel. its a pretty pink right now. with sakura flowers or something on the back.


i can even view latest updates from friends from the Tools > Options > Layout > Show updates.
and choose what i want to know.


thing is, i can't unhide the toolbar (file/contacts/) area and i find it rather crowded.
damn, i even sound like an advertisement for them.
but you get the drift.


I love My Yahoo! (i like oriental patterns)

- they had earlier versions of a customized homepage for each user but it wasn't as easy as the current version. the way you choose your layout, add news feeds, add gossips (i love gossips!) and entertainment news or the latest singapore news and worldwide happenings is in a matter of 1 to 2 clicks. unlike prior, they had only a few options and i hated the boring plain colors.
i have my comics, latest entertainment news and yes, news from Channel News Asia for both singapore and asia pacific. once in a while i peer at the stock portfolios but i don't get it anyway.

My other favourite visit is AsiaOne.com.sg

they have recently spiced up their website with the 'women' section renamed to 'Diva' and another section for Style, called 'Plush' for the grandeur things in life.
Diva sections are now so much more beautiful and entertaining, and yes, informative. i like it.
as a woman, i love how they have a section for us.
Of course the news section is as good. by clicking on Latest news you get a list of local and overseas news
and upon clicking, you get links to relevant news.


Exercise. i try to do Yoga twice a week. an hour each session. i'm a basic and i integrate it with calisthenics. I often refer to ABC of Yoga


Above site was shared by a fellow blogger, Radiata - ABCs of Yoga - showing the different poses, how you should move from 1 to the next. then again, its better to attend basic classes to grasp the right techniques before trying others. its really easy to get strained.


another site is fitday.com

shared to me by a beverly, a fellow blogger. it lets you track your calories and shows you what you've been over consuming on as it lets you enter the daily foods you eat. with that, you see what you lack. nifty for a 'health check' towards your target weight. and...its free! (but its changed quite abit since my last usage in april 2008..)


Weekends
i am a homer.
i enjoy watching Furnishing, Interior Design (Debbie Travis's Facelift - i love this show. a complete room makeover, her fun team and really good ideas and design, Home-making, Cooking shows (Martha Stewart, Rachel Ray, David Rocco's italian food & life & friends in Dolce Vita - his show is very relaxing, friendly and easy to understand & yes, to cook. i like how he introduces italy & the culture to viewers.
I also love Channel U & Channel 8's travel programs, insights into China ' Zai Zhong Guo De Gu Shi'/ China Travelogues.

more to be added on how i spend my time.

Songs by Eason Chan have been singing to me through my Sony Ericsson W810i.
He sings to me in the morning before i go for work.
He sings to me as i head home in the crowded bus.
All the while, reminding me through his lyrics, time to let go, time to get over him, time to let a 7 years relationship go.
All the wrongs i've done and the final wrong i did to hopefully make a person hate me.
to never see me as anyone, any object or anything but hate.
It stung me and it hurts a little.
It needs time to settle.

As dramatic as on television, reel life is almost real life.
Falling in love, breaking up, third party, extended parties, family differences, everything is a reflection of what's around in real life.


Eason Chan - 7


忘记三个月过去 忘记你的消息
忘记忙碌的白天 忘记有多空虚
忘记每个纪念日 忘记要去哪里
忘记失眠的黑夜 忘记我有多恐惧

忘记每次呼吸 忘记每天想你
忘记每一秒都在 自己骗自己

如果我真的可以 忘记我们的过去
这世上只剩你 唯一明白 我背上7的秘密

忘记你常说的话 忘记你的微笑
忘记你在我怀里 忘记从前多好
忘记熬过来以前 忘记每分每秒
忘记你走了以后 忘记你变了多少

忘记上次呼吸 忘记上次想你
忘记上一秒还在 自己问自己
这世上除了你 谁会明白 我背上7的秘密
如果我真的可以 忘记所有的过去
这世上只剩下你 唯一明白 我背起就是你
...忘记 忘记...


陳奕迅 - 不如不見


陳奕迅 - 不如這樣


Eason Chan - 想哭


"谈天说地是最理想的出路
谈音乐　谈时事　不说爱
若无其事　原来是　最狠的报复"

sometimes, pretending nothing happened is the strongest kind of revenge.
Wear a mask.
Wear a pair of sunglasses, pretend you know nothing.
nothing at all.


陳奕迅 - 不要說話



陳奕迅 - 然後怎樣


"然後怎樣?"
不就，这样。。。


Eason has too many sad songs...